One of the things I have never really understood is men complaining about surprise pregnancies when they have previously said to their partners “we have had enough kids.” If you know you, as a father, don’t want any more children then get a vasectomy. It’s non invasive, can be very cheap, and stops putting all the pressure of horrible contraceptives on your partner.
When I here some guys say “I don’t want anymore children,” and then say “I don’t want to have the snip” it sure sounds like “I don’t want to have anymore children with my current partner and don’t want to preclude the option with a future partner.” Or “my idea of manhood is will be hampered by not having the ability to father more kids.” Which really sucks.
Not enough focus, except for wear a condom, has been put on male contraceptive historically so I am pleased that there is positive developments on the Male Contraceptive Pill (if you don’t want a permanent fix) (SNIP). Also this out of India seems a really interesting development.
Guha’s technique for impairing male fertility relies on a polymer gel that’s injected into the sperm-carrying tubes in the scrotum. The gel, which has the consistency of melted chocolate, carries a positive charge that acts as a buffer on negatively charged sperm, damaging their heads and tails, and rendering them infertile.
The treatment, known as reversible inhibition of sperm under guidance, or RISUG, is reversed with a second shot that breaks down the gel, allowing sperm to reach the penis normally.
Though I guess the type of chap who seems to think their manhood is defined by their ability to fire live sperm will also be reluctant.
In summary – if you don’t want kids/more kids have a vasectomy. Otherwise take responsibility for your own little swimmers and stop putting it on your partner. And look forward to new types of male contraceptives coming out.